What’s the difference?

There’s been a lot of hype – especially on the TV about Gender Dysphoria.  And there seems to be a lot of confusion about the differences between Gender dysphoria, Transgender. Transsexual – and all the other TERMINOLOGY that confuses people.  And a lot of unhappiness too! For the record this blog is about cross-dressing – and the absolute fun that cross-dressing entails. I’m Tiko – I’m an ex-Premier League footballer and I play at international level for my country. The difficulties I have with cross-dressing – especially in the world of football – is the complete lack of awareness that the press, my colleagues and management and the most of the fans have about why I cross dress.

Read RED DRESS REVOLUTION to get the lowdown on what it’s like to be a professional footballer and a cross dresser. It’s a fascinating read.

No! I am not gay. Or have any gay tendencies. It’s just that I really dig cross-dressing. It allows me to get in touch with my female side. It’s an expression of my yin and my yang – and actually why I am so talented at football.

But in case you ever come across (and you will) friends and colleagues who don’t understand the whole scene here is some clarification below!


A condition where a person experiences discomfort or distress because there’s a incongruity between their biological sex and gender identity. It’s sometimes known as gender identity disorder (GID), gender incongruence or transgenderism.

Biological sex is assigned at birth, depending on the appearance of the genitals. Gender identity is the gender that a person “identifies” with or feels themselves to be.


This is an umbrella term for people whose gender is different from their “assigned” sex at birth – that written on their birth certificate. Gender can refer to one’s own, internal sense of being a man or woman, or another type that doesn’t fit either category. Gender can also be expressed externally – through clothing, behaviour, body characteristics and so on. Transgender can be shortened to “trans”.

In 2010, the Gender Identity Research and Education Society estimated the number of trans people in the UK to be between 300,000 and 500,000.

Gender is different from sexual orientation. Transgender people can be of any sexuality.


Transsexual – after facial feminisation



This is a term used by some people who permanently change their bodies, usually, but not always, using hormones or surgery. But some people who go through this process – known as the “transition” – prefer to be known simply as transgender, rather than transsexual. It’s best to ask which people prefer.


Non-binary people are those who don’t feel male or female. They may feel like both or like something in between. They may have a gender that changes over time or they may not relate to gender at all.

He or She? Well you could ask.

A transgender person called Mike would be referred to as “he”, while another called Diane would be “she”. But if you are unsure, it’s best to ask the person politely how they wish to be known

People assigned female at birth but living as a man may describe themselves as a “transgender man”, while those assigned male at birth but living as a woman may call themselves a “transgender woman”. These terms can be shortened to “trans man” or “trans woman”.

Some may also use the acronyms FTM (female-to-male) and MTF (male-to-female). Many prefer simply to be identified simply as a “man” or a “woman”.

And finally…


Cross-dressing is fun!



This describes a person who wears the clothes usually associated with the “opposite “sex. This is seen as a form of gender expression. The word “transvestite” is not used much these days.

And never, please, to be confused with “drag queen”  – meaning a man who dresses “as a woman” for purposes of entertainment.

And finally – don’t knock cross-dressing until you’ve tried it.


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